Yes, I know, maybe I'm pretentious in trying to answer this question; But I want to do it, because it is one of the questions that move me the most The patients, with their disjointed faces of sadness, impotence and despair.
If you ask yourself this question often, then you will have the feeling that everything is going wrong lately, you do not raise your head, you have a magnet for the Negative things or you take a stage in which all the possible options always come to you.
This perception of being a puppet of the drastic circumstances causes a lot of suffering, does not it, since it makes you feel a mere spectator of the Events that, difficult and unjust, they throng you to leave you out of combat.
Believing yourself to be very bad luck can become one of your worst enemies. Self-convincing of it is finding justification Perfect for not escaping from passivity and fear, is the prelude to the Depression , Market Stall That if what happens to you is the product of the unlucky chance, what the hell can you do but resign yourself and let yourself drift?
I hope that with this introduction you can intuit that there is another possible explanation to what you feel, that the sense of misfortune that takes over you May be partly a product of your mind; And therefore, you are in time to escape from that pessimistic view of life.
"If you leave tomorrow to prepare for the circumstances, Good Luck may never come. To provoke circumstances requires a first step... give it Today!"Alex Rovira, author of La buena Suerte.
Do you want us to explore it? Let us try to explain to what obeys that of thinking that one is unlucky, then to be in better disposition of To face it:
#1. External locus of control for the negative
This means that when faced with obstacles or difficulties, you tend to think that they have little or no relation to your behavior; So you attribute its appearance to bad luck, with the consequent feeling of frustration and helplessness that causes you to feel"how unfortunate I am, I always get the worst!"
Then you forget that you have room for maneuver on the circumstances, that fate is not written, that you have much to say, and that you can Mold the mass that comes to you to create a figure or another with your actions.
Proposal : Concentrate on what depends on you. Observe the connection between your behaviors and the external world. Regain control over your life.
#2. Mental filter: Selective view of events
When you think that chance has hit you, you're zooming in on the most dramatic events in your life story, which I will not tell you That do not exist or you invent them; But you are leaving in the background all the neutral, positive, regular, etc.
Take perspective, because the tree in front of you is not letting you see the forest, and you are making a compilation of your worst moments, without having In mind that your life has been much more than that.
Proposal Do the exercise contrary to what you usually do. Make a list of all those occasions when you felt lucky, grateful Or especially blissful. Have a more global vision of your life, without stopping so much in a Concrete sequences.
#3. The illusion of permanence
Surely when you have been immersed in a good streak, you have not been fully aware of that fantasy called"things will always be like this",
In fact maybe you took it for granted.
"... Although it is clear that nothing lasts forever (at least in this life the organism inevitably degrades and deteriorates with time), the mind attached Creates the longing for continuation and perpetuation ad infinity: immortality..."Walter Riso
You think that the good will remain, then someone turns off the lights, removes the music and zasca!, Who has taken my welfare? You are perplexed without To understand why"everything good was gone".
Proposal : Life is cyclical, remember to incorporate the concepts of finitude and temporality as you go your way. Some things will come to you and Others removed. You will have achievements and also Pending subjects .
The changes will happen, and the good and the bad will alternate, although at times you think they remain immovable.
So I propose that whenever you come to mind that"why I have so bad luck", do not take your question so seriously, do not grant it So much credibility to the statement:
Not everything is random, there are things that depend on you, therefore you have room for action.
You're forgetting the times that fortune smiled at you all nice to her. Keep it in mind.
Everything changes, everything happens. What today is gray, tomorrow becomes white.
Leave your comment and we speak:
Do you think you're unlucky?
Do you think a black cloud is chasing you?
Author: Patricia Córdoba. Online Psychologist and Coach Www.tupsicologia.com .
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Sources
Good luck. Keys to Prosperity. Fernando Trías de Bes Mingot Álex Rovira Celma. 2004.
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Bad luck does not exist. David S. Thibodeau. 2014. Obelisk.