The fear of being yourself is also present when trying to connect, but you must keep in mind that a good conversation is much more powerful than your appearance and that is a weapon that you should use to your advantage when approaching someone more and start a conversation. Did you meet someone you like but do not know how to talk to them? Do you get too nervous when you have that person nearby? Are you looking for a partner? We help you find it with these tips to take the first step without you gain anxiety or social phobia.
Tips for taking the first step
The main reason why we do not take the initiative with someone that attracts us is because of the fear of rejection, but the quicker we understand that this is one of many possibilities, the quicker we will be able to take this more calmly of being the one who takes the initiative.
1. Pay attention to the other person's body language
This is a cliché but it is because there is a lot of truth in it. 55% of our communication is through our body, so before making any movement it would be convenient to look at your body for clues to know if you are also interested in you. Prolonged eye contact, positive facial expression or discovering certain areas of the body such as the neck or wrists are signs of reciprocity. Another clear sign is the 'imitation', which is literally when the other person adopts your body posture in a clear gesture of attraction towards you.
2. Start with an interesting question
The small talk It can be very inconvenient at the time of flirting because you run the risk of not being able to take the step towards a truly interesting conversation in which your charm may be more than your physical attractiveness. Skip directly the questions that can be answered with monosyllables and take some interesting questions about current events, for example, or enter the hobbies and hobbies by asking what music you like to listen to, what books you like to read or what activities you prefer to do outdoor.
3. Create the perfect environment
If you have already seen that the other person responds to your flirtations, if the conversation is fluid and interesting and you do not have any doubt that the other person is as interested in you as you are in it, it is time that you propitiate the environment for the perfect encounter through a romantic date or some scenario that ends up conquering the object of your desire.
4. Always ask for permission before taking action
This does not necessarily have to be a verbal statement, but it is important that you do not jump headlong without having some level of certainty that the other person is also interested. Otherwise, what could be a romantic kiss in your head, from the opposite perspective can be seen as an act of harassment.