How to Learn to Love One's Self in 11 Steps

It's possible To love oneself ? Of course, and indeed you should. It is not about vanity or narcissism, but about valuing yourself, accepting yourself and having a real interest in you.

In this article I will teach you How to learn to love yourself , Be happy and feel good again with yourself, having Good self-esteem .

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If you totally believe in yourself, there will be no one outside your means.-Wayne W.Dyer.

In my opinion, a problem today is that the educational system and society instill a series of qualities that. According to them, they need to have to be successful.

All people are educated as if they are the same, and the media sell us the image we are supposed to have to be attractive.

But in this way all individuality is lost. What's more, who gets out of that"mass"of people is considered a rare person, the sheep that leaves the herd.

However, I think that's the best thing to do; Not to be carried away by others, to know our potential, to empower them and to act.

If they criticize us, it does not matter, because the only way they do not is by staying still and doing nothing.

If you then believe in yourself, in your potentialities and you have a great self-expectation, you can only grow. I repeat again; It is not superiority or pride, but not conformity. It is about accepting, values ​​and believe in your chances of growth.

1-Believe in your potentiality

If you do not believe in yourself, others will not. And it is given by a simple fact: if you think you can, you will act accordingly, you will get results and others will perceive it.

When you encounter something so normal in life as an obstacle, if you think you can overcome it, you will act and may fail at the first attempt. But if you think"okay, I've failed, but I'm learning to get over it", you're likely to end up passing it. If on the other hand you think"this is too much for me", you automatically stop trying.

Do you think Nadal, Federer, Lebron James, Cristiano Ronaldo or Messi were born being the best in their sports? Of course not, and if you think about it, they have failed and lost many games, but they have also won many. The fact here is that they do not give up and continue to train, which leads them to achieve more success. However, there are many others of your competitors that if they surrender and do not get that high.

In this respect it is always important that you be aware of your thoughts. I mean that inner voice that says"you can","you can not","you are the greatest","you are the worst"... And most people are not aware of it, because you have to make an effort To observe it, to question it and finally not to accept it. With the Practice of mindfulness You will become increasingly simple.

This is called Self-efficacy And can be defined as: the judgments of each individual on their capabilities, from which will organize and implement actions to achieve the desired results.

Henry Ford already said:

Whether you think you can, or if you think you can not, you're right.

An example:

Juan and Manuel prepare the New York marathon for 6 months. But the day comes and they are unable to finish it.

Juan thinks"I'm no good at this." And Manuel thinks"if I can although I have to train more, this has served to know what I have to train".

Who do you think is more likely to end the next year's marathon?

2-Worry why you think of yourself, not why others think

Sometimes we worry too much about"what they will think", although they may not even think about us or care about what we do.

However, have you ever wondered why you do not consider as often as you think about yourself? Well, your degree of well-being and achievement in life will depend on this question.

If you do not appreciate yourself, you will sabotage yourself. You may get something you want, but if you think you do not deserve it, you will not enjoy it and even likely spoil it.

On the other hand, you will be looking for the approval of others, one of the great areas more conflictive and worse to feel happy.

If you value yourself:

  • You will have a High self-steem (Is inseparable).
  • You will have motivation.
  • You will not impose absurd demands.
  • You can say no every time you want.
  • You will take care of yourself, you will rest and you will feed properly.
  • You will always be on a par with others.
  • Give your opinion when you want.

3-Face the Past

What you are, how you feel and do now depends on your current beliefs, not the past.

It is true that if you have had to go through circumstances that have made you feel bad, have not valued you, insulted you or mistreated you, you will be more likely not to value yourself and therefore have worse self-esteem.

But it is not immutable, it is not a wall that is built and can not be torn down. Whether you value yourself or not depends on you now.

For example:

Antonio and Miguel have gone to war and have mistreated, insulted and all the worst you can imagine.

Antonio thinks that has made him stronger and will help him to fight new obstacles, now everything will seem like a minutia. Miguel, however, thinks he's worthless and that will affect him for the rest of his life.

Cases like these are thousands. Two people go through the same circumstances and one collapses while another is able to come out strengthened.

The moment you think that some negative past event will help you to be better and stronger, everything changes.

4-Accept that you are not your mistakes

Your past mistakes do not define you, what defines you is what you think and do now.

If you have made any mistake, it has already happened and it has been to learn. In fact, you'll get better from it. He thinks that if you had not done it you probably would not have had a chance to improve.

Think about how good you do and what you are getting.

5-You have nothing to prove

Why do you have to show someone something to value you?

With that you could make your happiness and self-esteem depend on other people.

So be happy and feel good without having anything to prove to anyone. Set goals and try to achieve them, but let your happiness be controlled by you, not by others.

6-The past and mistakes are valuable

From now on, you can begin to think about your past (even if it was negative) as valuable to you and others. Because it has allowed you to learn, to be stronger and to improve as a person.

When you accept this, your weaknesses become strengths and allow you to grow.

7-Make a positive difference

If you really value yourself and you have positive expectations about yourself, you will automatically make a positive difference, you will be contributing well to the world.

If for example you think that you are supportive, you will help people.

If you think you are an entrepreneur and have initiative, you will start projects.

If you think you're friendly, you'll be nice to others.

8-Surround yourself with positive people and value yourself

Why join with people who do not value you when you can be with those who do?

Why are you with negative people with people that will make you grow?

Attitudes to life are contagious. Although your happiness depends on yourself,"to whom a good tree comes closer, a good shadow shelters you."

" If I have been able to see further, it has been because I Shoulders of giants "-Isaac Newton.

9-Value your time and body

Begin to take care of yourself mentally and physically, both are important.

Our thoughts are important, but also caring for food and exercise will help to have a positive self-esteem.

On the other hand, it eliminates from your habits everything that is not contributing anything to your growth and happiness. TV programs? Negative friendships?

Also think about whether you have a job that you like and that you value. We spent a third of our lives working. Is it worthwhile to continue in one that you do not appreciate or do not like? Or is it worth taking the chance and taking advantage of your time?

10-Meditate and practice mindfulness

Both will allow you to be more aware of your thoughts.

With 10-15 minutes a day you will see great advances.

I already do, little by little, but always moving forward.

11-Dare to do new things

All of the above will allow you to expand your interests and to do new things in life.

Go to new places, meet interesting people, do new things.

12-Adopt the kaizen

Kaizen is the Japanese philosophy of constant improvement.

If you adopt this philosophy, your growth will be constant and will always go up.

I'm interested in your opinion. Do you value yourself? What problems do you have to do it?


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