There are many studies that show the effects of self-esteem on health, and on the professional and personal results that are in life.
Having good self-esteem shows a direct effect on having a good quality of life and good mental health.
For example:
- A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2012) found that self-esteem is a cause of life outcomes, not an effect.
- A study published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology (2009) found that low self-esteem acts as a risk factor for developing depressive symptoms in adulthood.
Having a low self-esteem is one of the most common problems, which is why we have been asked to ask the following question to several experts in the field of Psychology and personal development:
What is the best way to improve self-esteem?
Here are your answers:
ANTHONY ROBBINS -
Robbins is probably the world's leading expert on personal development, NLP and coaching. Their books The power of Now , Control your destination and your programs Have reached millions of people around the world.
We live in a world where people tell you all day,"I believe in you. You are beautiful. Then you will have an extraordinary quality of life. You're cute. You're smart". That does not give you self-esteem. Self-esteem is esteem for yourself, and it does not come from doing what is simple. The only way to get self-esteem is by doing difficult things and pushing yourself beyond what you think is possible. By doing this there is pride, there is esteem for yourself, and you can learn to enjoy difficult things, that is when your life will change. What if you could learn to enjoy when things do not go well, not just when they are simple? Then you will become the master of your mind, your heart and your life.
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI -
Recognized globally, Mihaly is a professor of psychology at the University of Claremont in California and head of the department of ecology at the University of Chicago and Lake Forest University.
- Decide what you would most like to try in this life.
- Ask yourself whether it is possible to do it - do not underestimate or overestimate your abilities.
- Work as hard as you can to achieve your goal.
- If there is no way to approach your target, return to 1,2 and 3.
- Regardless of whether you succeed or not, you should feel good about yourself.
SERGIO FERNÁNDEZ -
Founder of the Institute of Positive Thinking and the Master of Entrepreneurs of the Institute of Positive Thinking. In addition he has directed among other things radio programs in ABC Punto Radio and has brought to light multiple publications.
"I think when you truly know who you are, you do not need self-esteem. To say that we have high or low self-esteem for myself is the same as saying that I know who I am or that I do not know. A tree does not need to increase its self-esteem, an ant does not have problems of self-esteem; They simply know what they are and live accordingly.
Low self-esteem means that we have forgotten what we are and what we have come to do to this world. The best way to have a high self-esteem is to remember who we are and live consistently with it. The best way to solve a problem is not to create or prevent it and the way to not create it is to be aware of who I am."
PATRÍCIA RAMÍREZ -
A psychologist specializing in sports, Patricia is one of the most famous professionals on the international scene with appearances on television, several books published and a multitude of conferences and works on the psychological field.
"For me the most important thing is acceptance, not resignation. Accept that which can not be changed, your size, the color of your eyes, to be able to invert the energy in the process of change that yes depends on us.
We can invest in training and have more qualities, a higher cultural level, better speaking, investing time to choose people who appreciate us as we are, dedicate time to exercise and eat healthy to see us more attractive, and build A scale of values with which we feel at ease. Accept also the time that requires each change, not to hurry, to think that we have all our lives to be the person we want to be. And lower our level of perfectionism. We do not want to be perfect, we want to enjoy the life we have, now, with who we are.
And be clear who we want to be."
JOAQUÍN PEÑA -
Joaquín Peña is one of the leading experts in the national scene in personal and organizational productivity, with his workshops and conferences has helped hundreds of people become happier thanks to productivity techniques. He is a Doctor of the US, a Master in Business Administration (MBA), Manager of Foulders.com and Researcher and Teacher in US.
- Clarify your wishes: Make a list of your greatest illusions, desires, dreams. It sounds! Forget that it is not possible.
- Focus: The one who embraces a lot squeezes, so choose only 1, which will have the biggest impact on your life.
- Clear the way: Make a list of your biggest fears, the complaints you say to yourself and the people who will help you and those who will slow you down.
- Determine how to act: Make a list with the first step as small as possible that you have to give to remove each problem above and also add the steps to move towards your goal.
- Take action every day: Check your list daily, take steps every day, and reward yourself (a dinner, a walk, listen to music) daily for having advanced.
The successes are achieved step by step, starting from a bump, or from the middle of the mountain. But every step you take will make you feel better and improve your self-image. Make it clear that you want and act!
FRANCISCO ALCAIDE -
Francisco is an expert in motivation and leadership degree in Business Administration and Management and Law. He has written many books and is involved in as many projects as the web Management Books.
"The best way to build good self-esteem is by finding ways to be in challenging environments. The environment drags us to a certain way of thinking, feeling and acting, and also does it without us realizing it. Limits are not in people, the limits are in the environments that determine our beliefs and powerfully influence what a person achieves. Our environment determines to a great extent the height of our success. In good environments, talent expands and unfolds its wings; In bad environments, talent contracts and feels small. or."
JORGE JIMÉNEZ -
Deriving from different projects such as Network Marketing or NLP and Personal Development, Jorge Jiménez gave light to his latest project as we know it today, seeking to develop a self-realization of its own and others to help people on their new journey.
"As a dopaminic adventurer that I am, my proposal to build a good self-esteem is to DARE. Dare to get out of the box, do different things and allow ourselves to be more authentic and free, do a mental and emotional stretching.
When we do, we realize that it was almost always not so much, that it was simpler and lighter than we imagine in our mental loop. Get out of that loop and act. The movement gives life and immobility consumes it.
But of course, to do this you need a good self-esteem with a pizza of confidence, right? In the end, the approach to achieving a healthy self-esteem is like thinking that it was before, whether the egg or the hen. If you think you lack confidence or self-esteem, act as if you have.
By acting at the end you end up believing you enough to live those situations that will allow you to build and reinforce healthy self-esteem."
JUAN SEBASTIÁN CELIS -
Author expert in personal development for success and financial freedom, Sebastían coordinates one of the largest websites in Spanish on personal success in the world with more than 10,000 visits a day. In addition, it has a total of 80,000 subscribers to its Youtube channel.
"High self-esteem brings a lot of good things to life. As indicated by countless studies, people with a good level of self-esteem generally live happier, free of stress and even diseases Physical properties. It is important to realize something that no one may have told you before: Your self-esteem changes every day, and even varies from one day to another. So what really matters is the average of how you feel about yourself.
The basis of good self-esteem is self-awareness, self-acceptance, personal responsibility, self-assertiveness, personal integrity and in general, living a purposeful life. All these things are achieved by always being focused on striving to achieve our dreams and continue to grow as a person and learning new things every day."
JAVIER IRIONDO -
Self-styled as an entrepreneur specializing in marketing, marketing and personal development, he comes to different countries of speakers as well as founding different companies and writing the best seller"Where your dreams take you."
"One of the great keys to building good self-esteem is our constant personal growth through training, learning and action.
Each time we learn new things, our understanding level increases, and that understanding removes barriers and opens doors to new dimensions. When we increase our level of understanding about different aspects of life and about ourselves, a new world opens up before us.
That new knowledge helps us to develop new skills, and these in turn help us to feel more confident and more able to face the challenges that we previously did not feel prepared for.
Our development and personal evolution broadens the sense and perception of our own identity, these new qualities add us both internally and externally, which builds and strengthens good self-esteem."
ANTONI MARTÍNEZ -
With more than 10 years of experience in the field and specialized in Clinical Psychology of Cognitive-Behavioral Current, Antoni Martínez is a Valencian psychologist who currently directs Psychology in Positive.
"According to my professional experience we can build a healthy self-esteem following two ways. The first is to give me permission to do so. I explain; If I want to build a healthy self-esteem and therefore take care of myself, respect myself, feel good about myself, value me more and all that entails I must start by allowing myself. It is a process of personal development that begins by taking that step. And second, break down self-esteem into workable components more easily. Improve it in the academic - professional, in the physical, in the social, also in the ethical - spiritual. That way we can take decisive action in each of these areas."
SUSANA RODRÍGUEZ -
Susana is an enterprising lawyer, Legal Advisor expert in Multilevel Marketing and CEO of life and business and pioneer among other things. He is also a lecturer, motivator and blogger.
"The term self-esteem is a hybrid born of Greek and Latin and its original concept has to do with the value of oneself, it is the evaluative perception of ourselves. The importance of self-esteem is that it relates to our whole being, our way of acting and the feeling of our own personal and even professional value. Most people suffer from low self-esteem. Nothing in our way of thinking, feeling, deciding and acting escapes the influence of self-esteem. Abraham Maslow, in his famous Pyramid of Maslow, describes within the hierarchy of human needs, the needs of appreciation, which in turn are divided into self-esteem, self-confidence, sufficiency, skill... - and The estimation that is received from other people - recognition, acceptance... -."
ÁLVARO LÓPEZ -
Engineer of unsatisfied profession that was formed in emotional intelligence, NLP, Coaching, Mindfulness and other more disciplines. He currently directs the web of autorrealizate.com with which he feels at last"self-realized".
"Certainly enjoying good self-esteem is fundamental to experiencing fulfillment in life. That's why I always recommend working on it first before facing important goals in life. Putting yourself into action without enough confidence in yourself will make it harder to achieve that goal, and if you do not succeed at all, your self-confidence will be buried even more.
That is why my recommendation to build a good self-esteem is to reflect on the achievements you have achieved previously. You are sure to take pride in the results you are proud of and of which other people show their appreciation. Bringing them to your mind will make you remember what you are worth and you will thus be able to recover your self-esteem ."
CARMEN FERNANDEZ -
Mathematics and personal executive coach and team expert in leadership. He has experience in consulting in which he has worked for 15 years. It is through their web search"find the best version of each one".
" To build a good self-esteem, I invite my clients to observe, without analyzing, which is a great nuance. Observe yourself by looking at your own behaviors, attitudes, verbal, non-verbal language... It is incredible what one takes conscience by doing this observation. And then it's time to draw up a road map, to demarcate the points that you want to change, to draw up a plan, and most importantly, to enjoy the path of this plan. To be amazed, to be surprised and above all reward us for the objectives achieved. Anything, however small, is a great achievement in what self-esteem is concerned.
The most important thing is to allow us to move forward and find out how far we can go."
ASIER ARRIAGA -
Asier is defined as a psychologist who likes scientific dissemination as well as a curious, skeptical and analytical technician who writes to share knowledge and encourage constructive debate.
"The truth is that self-esteem is not formed or can be changed in a few days. From the moment of birth, our learning history is the scaffolding on which the good or bad self-esteem that we are gradually developing.
Likewise, the opinion of others, however ill we weigh, is to these effects decisive. The child who is subject to constant mockery on the part of his companions will end up believing, if nothing counters him, that his value is less than that of the others-
But although this environment is something that we can not influence to a great extent, there is a field in which our margin of decision is much greater: the way we interpret and react in front of it. "I am not responsible for what you do to me, but for how you make me feel and how I respond."
There are some strategies that, directly or indirectly, can help:
- Choose the company of those people with whom you are best. They are often people who, in one way or another, are promoting a better self-esteem in yourself.
- Take time to get to know yourself and know your weaknesses. Be honest with yourself, acknowledge your weaknesses and appreciate your strengths.
- Learn to recognize those things that you can change and those that can not. And accept that margin of uncertainty. Not everything is under your control, but everything is not up to you.
- Define your goals in a concrete and realistic way. If you know well what you want, are attainable goals and also are consistent with what is good for you, it will be easier to achieve success.
- Do not fall into excessive self-demand or constant criticism of yourself. Knowing how to identify our mistakes helps to correct them, but focusing only on them and forgetting the merits is a bad idea.
- Remember your own achievements and positive qualities.
- The approval of others is important, but do not let it become decisive. The essential is what you think of yourself. Ask yourself the following question: what would you think of a third person who does it as I do? Surely you are less severe than others are.
- Take some time to make a mistake. Face new challenges, investigate new paths, dare you with unknown terrain. You will discover that you are more capable than you think.
- And remember your wishes and needs. It's okay to allow you some whims from time to time."